Funny enough, gay used to mean “happy/joyful”. Even the famous The Flintstones cartoon’s opening theme song has a line that goes “We’ll have a gay old time”. But sadly, modern society uses the word as a homophobic insult way too often.

Ironically, because society is so against men showing emotion, I now reflectively think “wow, that’s a pretty strong and self confident guy” when a see a man open about showing love or crying. That’s a guy bucking generations of toxic masculinity and homophobia to do what he knows is healthy and normal, that’s fucking peak “being a man”.

For so much of my younger life I proudly stated shut like “I haven’t cried in 10 years”. I was a fucking fraud, I wasn’t tough, I was terrified of confronting things I knew would make me sad so I avoided/ignored them.

I said goodbye today to my dog of 12 years, it broke me. I wept as I held him take his last breath. When I returned home with my wife I made a point to let my son see I too was crying. That was a beautiful soul we loved deeply, he brought us great happiness. Ugly crying means we recognize how great and irreplaceable he was, to try and teach against that is cruel and unthinkable to me.

Let’s be fair most of it is projection and they are largely stomping down on their own confusing feelings doesn’t make them any less of an asshole but does make it more amusing. Think about how many republicans get caught having gay affairs who extremely vocally anti gay

Its more about his mannerisms amd the way he speaks that make him a target.

Edit: i never said i had any issue with him. Im just pointing out why he gets targeted by trolls. You fucking morons

Dont do this. People in the gay community dont want you blaming homophobia on - “oh he’s just a homophobe because he’s secretly gay and just can’t handle it”. I know you’re trying to do the right thing, but hear me out please.

There are entire megachurches full of homophobes. Entire religions and political parties FULL of homophobes. It’s not because they’re all secretly gay. It’s because they’ve been taught to hate those who are different from them. The teaching of hate it what makes homophobia. Not just being gay growing up in a homophobic society.

Racists aren’t all secretly racial minorities.

Homophobes aren’t all secretly gay.

Not every homophobe is Lindsey Graham

Combatting homophobia by implying they’re gay

Sick

Poetry

So the real enemy is closeted gays?

You sound like a right wing podcaster talking about Hollywood.

A lot of homophobes are bigots who hate other groups, too.

Look at these extreme Christian nationalists in the US who hate women, Black folks, Muslims, etc.

Maybe gay people challenge their narrow notion of masculinity and their strict social categories.

But I don’t think it’s that they are secretly gay. It’s more that they have an ideology that gay folks don’t fit into. And they have a socio-economic agenda that benefits when they can divide the working class, scapegoat minorities, and generate misdirected anger.

I hate to generalize but every single raging homophobe I’ve met in person has turned out to be a closet case. It’s sad

He made the finals twice I’m confused by this comment

You can be 60 and be a goofball, that’s just personality. It’s certainly a young age to deal with the weight of those things and I think it’s better put that way than calling them kids

I’m older than KAT, but I would never call a thirty year old man a “kid”. It’s disrespectful, and it’s just not true!

Cause he acts like a kid. That’s why people call him soft. He’s not elevating t